A church member recently had knee replacement surgery, and his procedure reminded me of an experience from my previous pastorate.

A senior lady chose to have both knee replacements done in the same operation because she planned to bounce back as quickly as possible to care for her husband, whose health was declining.

After a few minutes, a receptionist-type walked in and said, “We have an observation room. Would you like to watch your Mom’s procedure?”

I rushed from far upper Cherokee County to North Atlanta to pray with her before surgery. When I arrived, I discovered they took her early and her procedure was already underway. Her daughter was there and I prayed and visited with her.

After a few minutes, a receptionist-type walked in and said, “We have an observation room. Would you like to watch your Mom’s procedure?”

I was hoping she’d declined but instantly she said, “Yes, I would!”

Then the daughter said, “Come on, David!”

The employee led us down a hall, around a corner and into a room, where, on the other side of a large plate glass window lay her mom with one knee already open and the surgeon doing his thing. This weak-stomached pastor who barely survived four natural child births and almost fainted in one of them had to man up to hang with this gal. About the time I was taking in the procedure, the lady returned carrying a box and asked, “Would you like a doughnut?”

When people allow pastors into their lives, it’s a special moment and a sacred trust that God’s called take seriously.

Of course, the daughter took one, so I did, too, and we sat there eating doughnuts while viewing a knee replacement. When they sewed up the right knee, I said, “I’m going to let you handle the other one,” and slipped out and headed back to the foothills.

That doesn’t happen every day, but what does happen is pastors sharing life with people, providing friendship, support and a ministry of prayer and presence as life brings ups and downs. When people allow pastors into their lives, it’s a special moment and a sacred trust that God’s called take seriously.

Sometimes you get more than you bargain for. Years ago, I visited one of our dear ladies. She was telling me about her pacemaker and her recent doctor visit, and the next thing I know, she pulled her gown down just far enough to display the pacemaker. “Too Much Info” often comes with the territory.

Often we forget that pastors are people who also have highs and lows, good days and difficult seasons.

I popped in on another older lady who was in her backyard on a step ladder trimming shrubs. When she saw me, she looked guilty, and the first thing she said was, “Oh, please don’t tell my daughter what you found me doing.”

I didn’t, and several Sundays later, the lady shared with friends, “I can say one thing about our Pastor. He knows how to keep his mouth shut.”

Pastors love walking with their people through life’s celebrations and tribulations, but in ministry, pastors often carry burdens of their own.

Often we forget that pastors are people who also have highs and lows, good days and difficult seasons. Despite expectations, they do not wear an “S” on their shirts. They, too, carry their own burdens, grow weary, and sometimes disillusioned.

Have you ever thought about this question? Who pastors the pastor? Where does the pastor turn when he’s hurting?

In 2015, Lifeway Research partnered with the North American Mission Board to survey 1500 American pastors. The research revealed that:

  • 48% agreed they often feel the demands of ministry are greater than they can handle
  • 1 out of 3 agreed they feel isolated as a pastor
  • 54% agreed the role of pastor is frequently overwhelming
  • Over 8 of 10 pastors agreed they must be on call 24 hours a day.
  • 5 out of 10 pastors agreed they are often concerned about the financial security of their family.
  • More than 1 in 3 pastors agreed ministry demands keep them from spending time with their family
  • More than 1 in 5 pastors agreed that their family resents the demands of pastoral ministry (http://lifewayresearch.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Reasons-for-Attrition-Among-Pastors-Quantitative-Report-Final1.pdf, accessed October 9, 2018).

Not every pastor makes it. The survey also showed that about 1% of pastors leave the ministry prematurely every year (prior to retirement).

Have you ever thought about this question? Who pastors the pastor? Where does the pastor turn when he’s hurting?

How can you help lift the load? Be a friend and encourager. Loneliness is often a byproduct of the ministry. Pray daily for your pastor and family and look for ways to show appreciation for their faithful service.

I Thessalonians 5:12-13 reads, “. . . we urge you, brethren, to recognize those who labor among you . . . and esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake.”

(Dr. David L. Chancey is pastor, McDonough Road Baptist Church, Fayetteville, Georgia. The church family meets at 352 McDonough Road and invites you to join them for Bible study at 9:45 and worship at 10:55 a.m. Visit them online at www.mcdonoughroad.org and like them on Facebook).

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Dr. David L. Chancey
Dr. David L. Chancey is the pastor of McDonough Road Baptist Church in Fayetteville, Georgia. Pastor David grew up in Southwest Atlanta in his early years, then moved to Milledgeville, Georgia, when his father took a job transfer. He graduated from Baldwin County High School, attended Georgia College, graduated from Georgia Southern University with a BS in Journalism, graduated from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary with a Master of Divinity, and then from New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary with a Doctor of Ministry. As God's call upon his life evolved, he served in denominational communications, then as a BSU director, and finally in the pastorate, where he served Carmel Baptist Church, Carmel, Indiana; Cool Springs Baptist Church, Tate, Georgia; and currently McDonough Road Baptist Church (MRBC) since 1999. He describes the best thing to ever happen to him outside of receiving Jesus Christ as Savior is marrying Amy, an RN and neonatal intensive care unit nurse. He and Amy have four children (Rebecca, Rachel, Ruth and Jonathan), and, though he says he's not old enough to be a grandfather, six grandchildren. David loves to preach, but also loves pastoring. He enjoys "just hanging out" with his flock, especially if it involves eating. He is thrilled when he sees members "growing in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ," and when people come to Christ. His desire is to lead MRBC to impact as many people as possible with the life-changing power of the Gospel. This desire to impact lives with the Gospel has led him to take an annual mission trip to Santa Catarina, Brazil, in recent years, where he has seen over 2100 persons come to Christ and new churches planted and strengthened. He is also leading MRBC to strive to new levels in missions going, giving, and praying. David enjoys spending time with family as often as possible, getting away with Amy, following the Atlanta Braves and University of Georgia Bulldogs, and writing a regular column for The Citizen, one of our local papers. He also enjoys running. Please visit him on the web or social media at the above links.